Nature has imbued humans with the sexual drive to serve a number of purposes when approached in the right way:
- Procreation, or fathering a child.
- Building a bond with one’s spouse in the early stages of marriage.
Nature has created an attraction between men and women in order to bring them together, form a family unit, cohabit, and raise offspring. Without this attraction, it’s unlikely that two strangers, a man and a woman, would come together, or even if they did, they would be unwilling to stay together and fulfill their responsibilities as a family. The attraction between them is designed to form a strong foundation for a happy family life.
However, this attraction is only meant to last for a certain period of time and will eventually wane once the goal of forming a family is achieved. At this point, nature is signaling to the couple that it’s time to move on and form a new foundation for their marital relationship, one based on unconditional love, trust, consideration, and companionship. Relationships that are solely based on physical attraction or sex are therefore likely to have a limited lifespan.
Many people mistakenly believe that sex is the ultimate source of pleasure and something to be enjoyed throughout life. This illusion blinds them to the fact that there are higher states of consciousness that can be achieved through self-control and spiritual pursuits. This is where the concept of Brahmacharya comes in – the practice of living according to the dictates of the Almighty and seeking a state of eternal bliss. To reach these elevated states, one must gradually shift their focus from sexual pleasure to a deeper connection with God by thinking less about sex and more about divine love.
True love is selfless and unconditional, and the giver derives immense pleasure from giving. When you truly love your partner, their physical appearance or attire will have no impact on your desire to spend time with them and bring them happiness. Your spouse is like God in human form, cooking, serving, and smiling at you. It’s important to understand that physical attraction is fleeting and an illusion, and gradually reduce the frequency of sexual intercourse and even ejaculation. Semen is considered a divine fluid, and the more a man conserves it, the more he prospers and shines. Dedicate some time each day to:
- Engaging in physical exercise
- Challenging your mind with intellectual pursuits
- Reflecting on your true self by reading religious texts such as the Bhagavad Gita, Bible, or Quran, and practicing meditation.
It’s crucial to avoid anything that stimulates the sexual plane, such as sights, sounds, smells, tastes, and touches that trigger sexual desires. With consistent and honest effort, God will undoubtedly extend a helping hand and lift you up to higher states of consciousness.